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Give Me A Freak

freaks-la-monstrueuse-parade-1932-lc-01-gWe may soon lose the acceptable use of the word freak from our vocabulary, if the trending concern over its renewed popularity continues to grow.

As pop culture sees entertainment revisiting the bygone, sideshow days; some people are starting to worry that the use of the word will return as a popular hate slur. On television, American Horror Story: Freak Show, and on Broadway, the revival of the musical, Side Show, explore a long forgotten form of entertainment: the exploitation of people with physical deformities.

Is there really something to be concerned about here? Both of the above mentioned stories, while enticing with the oddities, move beyond, to explore the desires for ‘normal’ human feeling and existence. The message seems to be that the freaks are just like us. In some way, shape or form, we are all freaks.

From the musical TABOO

Give me a freak
Any day of the week
I’m comfortable with those you call demented
Give me a freak
Not someone meek
With space between their ears that can be rented
I like noise
Aggressive boys
Hookers, thieves and queers and those confused
If you knew
What I knew
You’d be a freak too!

Music & Lyrics by Boy George

i_am_not_weirdOver time we’ve had freaky Fridays, we’ve freaked out and we’ve gotten our freak on. For a time, there was a freak movement in the club scene. If we lose the word, is there a better one to replace it?

Freak can mean a genetic abnormality, deformity, to get stressed out and upset, to be weird, to be different from the social norms, etc. The word as it is most used today is slang. Words can be used innocently for descriptive purposes or to spew hate in the form of negative stereotypes or threatening in nature.

Why are we allowing the use of a word to build fear instead of conquering it? Gays reclaimed the word ‘queer’ in the 90’s and though it is still used as a hateful slur, it has lost much of its power.

A word is just a word until you put intention, inflection and the way it is received into play.

To borrow from the NRA:

Words don’t hurt people, People hurt people.

I don’t believe banning words or making them social unacceptable is going to solve the real problem.

Crazy Cat Talk

I’ve spent so much time focusing on our Boxers, Cash and particularly, Belle lately; I figured Collins needed some public attention.

Collins, named after Tom Collins in Rent,  is probably the friendliest cats I’ve ever known. He’s even friendly without reservation, with strangers. He will make himself scarce at parties though, usually, to reappear as it starts to wind down to check things out.

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Collins

Collins is a huge talker. He will Meooooow and Grrrreooooow continuously if he wants attention. Sometimes he’ll follow me around the house talking to me, especially if I haven’t spent time with him on my lap first thing in the morning. He’ll rub up against me or whatever is nearby (the sign of marking his territory) and a few quick pets or strokes are never enough.

He greets me every morning and follows me, talking to me non-stop, while I make coffee and every night, follows me, meowing, all the way up the stairs.

Collins loves to sit on my lap and nuzzle and purr, or snuggled against my side. His purring can be quite loud at times. His desired daily routine seems to be starting and ending the day on, or next to me. The rest of the day he could be anywhere in the house. He just wants his me time.

He loves to give kisses. Cats usually kiss by nose or forehead bumping but Collins prefers to lick my lips. I know, some people will think that’s gross but my dogs do the same thing too… and I kiss them back.

We keep food out for him at all times, refilling his bowl as needed. One of Collins’ funny little traits is that he likes to have his food fluffed. That’s right, sometimes he’ll find me and talk until I follow him to his food bowl. I either shake it or stir the pieces of dry kibble up with my fingers… and he  prefers it to be in a mound. As soon as I do that, he’ll stop his chatter, often only eating a piece or two and then jumping back down and he’s off on his own.

I made the mistake of letting him try people food. Well, some he he tried himself. He likes– wait, he loves whipped cream, ice cream, chicken, hamburger and melted cheese. I can’t eat any of them without Collins begging; talking and talking until he gets a taste. Oddly though, he will not eat wet or moist cat food or treats, only dry.

I’ve never heard him howl or yowl, like some cats, even when Belle is pursuing him.

I caught several programs on Animal Planet this weekend dealing with rescues and socializing animals and realized I’d never really looked into cat language or cat talk in all the years I’ve had them.

I guess I’ve always just taken their form of communication for granted.

I learned that you really have to watch their full body language to gauge how they are feeling.

What made me especially curious was how Collins and Belle interact. At first, I worried that they often look like they were fighting. (Actually, Belle taunting and teasing Collins and him defending himself.) But, after doing some research, I’ve come to the conclusion that they are mostly just playing and getting to know each other.

Belle at 8 weeks and Collins at 11 yrs old.

Belle at 8 weeks and Collins at 11 yrs old.

When Belle approaches Collins calm and gentle, Collins will poke his head forward and bump (kiss) Belle on the nose. When Belle is all wound up, Collins usually still lets her sniff, no matter what Belle’s energy level is at the moment. If Belle starts bouncing or making short lunges or boxing him, Collins will usually give her a drawn out meoooooow, a hiss or bat (box) back at her.

According to the different sites I checked out, Collins doesn’t exhibit the typical behavior of a cat in fear or annoyance. I try to watch his body language and he may exhibit one or two traits– but not multiple signs of fear or aggression.

Though Collins frequently uses his tail language to express happiness or contentment, and occasionally (with me) irritation; he seldom uses it at all to show irritation with Belle.

Same with his ears. Cats use them to show fear, aggression, pleasure and curiosity. When they feel threatened or in defense mode, cats will often flatten there ears or pull them back against their head. I’ve seen Collins do this before but not in recent memory and not with Belle.

When he’s in the mood to play, Collins loves to hide and jump out and bat at Belle. Then he usually retreats because he knows after the initial surprise, Belle will be on his tail… or sometimes his back. Several times in the past week, Belle will stalk Collins and then trap him; laying right down on him. It’s really funny to watch as Collins meows and wriggles out from under her.

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Collins chowing down on chia grass.

You know the saying goes, Some things are just meant to be. The same is true with Collins. He adopted us, out of the blue one December. He wandered into our yard that day and didn’t leave, so we finally brought him in out of the cold.

Whether any of the rest of us accept it or not– Collins is the king of this house.

Don’t believe me? Ask him— He’ll be happy to talk about it for hours.

 

Public Education Is ‘Dumbing Down’ America

IcanhazjobWe don’t need to know how to spell, calculate simple math equations, write in cursive or expand our vocabulary, do we? We have computers. If education in America continues on its current track, students will be reduced to nothing more than computer operators with limited thinking skills and the inability to function without them. The evolution of the brain and our abilities to think and communicate are being thwarted by a system that seeks to create a society with restricted measurable skills, in affect, dumbing down individual potential.

Powerful leaders through history have known that if you can control how and what people think, you can control the masses. Programs like No Child Left Behind and now, Common Core strive to produce group results not successful individuals.

einstein-8otaj2lv7-95294-530-366Why do you think there is such a great importance on standardized testing? The public is led to believe that it is to provide concrete proof of learning (or lack thereof) and guide educators to improve student performance. Face the fact: Testing only measures a very limited, specific result. It does not measure thinking skills, creative problem-solving and is not an honest indicator of a learning disability or poor educational environment.

The goal of our current public education system is to limit students’ abilities to be creative in both their thinking and problem-solving skills, restricting their knowledge base and reducing their abilities to explore their unique individuality.

Don’t blame the teachers. Their hands have been tied for years. Look to the leadership. Ultimately, the road map is being sent down from the state and federal levels.

But, that’s just the way I see it.

Moon Songs

619744-52106a3f11bb7-largeHappy Sunday! The clocks have been turned back, most of the leaves have fallen from the trees and the moon rules with prominence in the late fall sky.

Throughout history, much has been written about the moon in relation to mystery and romance. It’s fascination never seems to leave us.

I did a search of my music library and 208 recordings of “moon songs” came up. Many are recordings of the same songs by different artists.

Here are five of my most favorite moon songs:

Talking To The Moon – Written by Bruno Mars, Philip Lawrence, Ari Levine, Albert Winkler & Jeff Bhasker and Performed by Bruno Mars. Originally recorded for the album, Doo-Wops & Hooligans.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YHwKZtqqUjM

 

Moon River by Henry Mancini with lyrics written by Johnny Mercer. It received the 1961 Academy Award for Best Original Song, from Breakfast at Tiffany’s. There have been many wonderful recordings of this classic. Performed here by Andy WIlliams.

 

Moonfall by Rupert Holmes from the Tony Award winning, Broadway musical The Mystery of Edwin Drood sung by Betsy Wolfe in the 2013 Broadway Revival.

 

Fly Me To The Moon by Bart Howard  Recorded by many artists, sung here by Nat King Cole.

 

Moon Over Bourbon Street Written and Performed by Sting. Originally from the album, The Dream of the Blue Turtles. Inspired by the Anne Rice novel, Interview With The Vampire. Shown here, recorded Live in Berlin 2010.

 

Do you have a favorite you want to share? Let me know!

Have a great week!

Blind Hate

love_hate_525I’ll never understand what causes people to become so enraged and be so hateful.

Believe it or not, everyone was not born to hate and everyone was not born a hateable stereotype.

Where does hate come from? Is it jealousy? Partiality? Being disrespected? Envy? Ignorance? Or is hate purely based in fear?

At what point did hate become the acceptable alternative to loving all mankind?

Hate is an extreme, passionate emotion, just like love. Are we strictly taught to hate? In the process, do many people even bother to think about it logically and try to discover the origin of it in their own lives?

An-eye-for-an-eyeAll hate doesn’t evolve into violence. All hate does affect behavior and the treatment of others. Sometimes the vehemently caustic words so easily expressed by some, are more damaging than actual physical violence enacted by others.

We often see hate expressed violently in correlation to religion, race, politics and class. At what point did these groups become nothing more than targeted and often, victimized stereotypes? Granted, it’s much easier to hate a group than it is to hate an individual. It certainly saves time. If someone really wants to live in an isolated bubble then hating, by definition is a simple solution. Why waste time getting to know people as individuals?

Hate+ Isolation= An Ignorant, Fear-Filled Life

Hate2wIn social media, you see so many people expressing feelings, judging others and many times probably not even realizing, that what they are doing is hurtful. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. People really need to realize that the way they express their opinions can come across as hateful and hurtful to others; even if it is unintentional. I completely defend everyone’s right to freedom of speech and practice it myself, frequently. But, I believe there is more danger in the words of those– that unknowingly, express hatred towards others than those that side with, and identify with openly defined hate groups.

Love-and-Hate2Politics is one of the most visible arenas for acceptable expressions of hate. Parties disagree. We all understand that. Threats and total disregard for another viewpoint without any credible validation? Unacceptable.

It’s an election year and we have candidates perpetuating hate on both sides. In effect, what I hear from politicians is quite often the exact same accusations and promises, twisted to their benefit, according to what they think the public wants to hear. Or, at least enough people to get them elected.

Politicians are hypocrites and thrive on contradiction. Politics has become a game of hate. Who hates whom more?

In a game, there is a winner and a loser.

In a game of hate, no one wins and everyone loses.

Isn’t it the same with every other aspect of our society? Instead of hating others because of their differences, how about some meaningful discussions about how we can all get along and come to some concrete, acceptable solutions? Does loving one another no longer exist? How about some education and acceptance?

But that would take time and effort. People might be required to step out of the safety of their bubble….

 

It’s much easier to just hate.

Exercise Your Right: VOTE!

Mid Term Elections– not important? Wrong! There are many important elections and ballot initiatives this cycle, happening all over the country.

Tuesday, November 4, 2014 is an important day. Many communities have early voting for those that find it difficult to make it to the polls on the 4th.  Locally, early voting is possible at multiple locations, seven days a week.

We’re all pretty tired of the constant negative campaign commercials. But it’s almost over!

No matter what side of the aisle you support, please make sure your voice is heard and VOTE!

Whatever you do, don’t accept the lame attack ads as the truth. Attack ads spin facts and take quotes out of context.

Take just a few moments and educate yourself before you head to your polling place.

Don’t vote based on fear…. vote based on fact!

It’s Beginning To Look A lot Like….

No, I’m not going to say the big “C” word, although it is coming quick. And, no, I haven’t started decorating the house either.

It’s beginning to look a lot like… Here’s your chance to fill in the blanks!

I am participating in National November Writing Month and I’m hoping I can get at least 30 people to help! Be my muse!

I’m actually participating on two levels this year. I’ll be attempting to write a blog post every day for the month of November and writing a complete novel in a month.

Pretty crazy, huh?

What I Need

I’m looking for at least 30 people (30 days in November) to act as my muse and contribute a person, place and a thing that I will have to incorporate in my story as it develops. You can contribute either by leaving your suggestions here in the comment section, or on Facebook in the comment section linking to this post.

Person– This could be a first name or full fictional name. Help me name my characters!

Place– This is pretty open, be creative. Avoid countries. Fictional businesses, towns, rooms, settings, etc.

Thing– Could be an item, emotion or an action (i.e.- a saw, insanity or kidnapping). No Brand names of items please.

I’ll use everything that is submitted, some way, some how in the story. This will be a work of fiction but not fantasy or Sci Fi so avoid suggestions that might only work in those genres.

I’ll also accept suggestions of topics for future blog posts.

What It Is

National Writing Month was created as a way to challenge writers to complete a project, to network, and to publicize their work.

In a nutshell, the goal is to write every day for the whole month of November.

In the novel challenge, you should have a complete novel by the end of the month; and for the blog challenge, you should have published 30 new blog posts.

If you are interested in participating (writing) yourself, you can find out more at NaNoWriMo for writing a novel; and NaBloPoMo for the blogging challenge. It’s free to sign up and there are plenty of resources to get the creative juices flowing.

 

Watch It Grow

1) My Blog: Watch for new blog posts each day during the month of November. I’ll write about a wide variety of topics, maybe post photos, and share some of my favorite things. The best way to follow my progress is to sign up to follow me using the link in the right column of this blog.

2) The Novel: I’m totally relying on you to steer the direction of my novel. I haven’t decided if I’m going to post updates daily through my blog– but in the end, I’ll be sharing my finished product that you can help me create. It will not be SCI-FI or Fantasy, I’m just not familiar enough with those genres. I’m going to start with general fiction and see where it goes… could be a mystery or even a romance. Maybe both. We’ll have to wait and see how you inspire me!

Priority for inclusion will go to people that submit to me by November 1st. Let’s get started!

Under The Spreading Ginkgo Tree: 321 Division Street

Our Ginkgo tree at 321 Division Street.

Our Ginkgo tree at 321 Division Street.

One of the priceless gems of our property at 321 Division Street is our ancient Ginkgo tree. I know it’s definitely over 100 years old (based on an old picture) and would guess it’s actually between 110 and 130 years old. The modern Ginkgo tree is often called a living fossil, a descendent of the species dating back to the Early Jurassic period.

It is well known for its fan-shaped leaves that can be frequently found in ancient Chinese art.

In the fall, I’ve watched all the leaves drop from the tree in one day. When it happens that quickly, it’s a spectacular sight. The species is known to commonly drop all its leaves in 1 to 15 days.

This year, our tree is acquiring much more of the deep golden color leaves than usual. In recent years, we’ve had warmer weather leading up to a hard frost that causes most of the leaves to drop still green.

Ginko leaves turning their fall colors.

Ginkgo leaves turning their fall colors.

The Ginkgo, or Ginkgo biloba tree, grows tall before its branch stretch out wide. Our tree is somewhere around 70 feet tall. The Ginkgo is known to easily reach heights of over 100 feet.

Ginkgo trees are either male or female; the male producing cones with spores that are highly allergenic. The female produces ovules and once pollinated develop into silver green fruit that turn orange when they are ripe. There is a large nut in the center of the fleshy fruit. Ginkgo trees can reproduce asexually as well, which is evidenced by our tree. The nearest mature Ginkgo tree is a block away and is female. We believe it to be an offspring of our tree.

Clusters of Ginkgo fruit ripen on the tree.

Clusters of Ginkgo fruit ripen on the tree.

The biggest drawback about our tree is the fruit. Our Ginkgo produces large quantities (hundreds of pounds) of fruit each year, The fruit  is smaller than a walnut.) Though a few do drop throughout the fall, most remain on the branches long after all the leaves have dropped and we’ve had several good freezes.

The fleshy fruit contain butyric acid, that when ripe and fallen, have a foul smell like vomit. On an unseasonably warm day, this smell can be detected over a block away. This odor only lasts a few days but because the fruit usually drop so late, we often have fruit under fallen snow and have to deal the the smell briefly in the spring as well.

Once established, the Ginkgo tree is quite hardy and resistant to disease and pollution. They do not survive (tolerate) shade though. An interesting fact I found was that six Ginkgo trees survived the Hiroshima atomic bomb (1945) when most every other living thing perished.

Our own tree sustained substantial damage as the result of  bad hail storm a number of years ago, losing nearly a quarter of its branches. We had an arborist come and prune the damaged wood and the tree remains healthy. He also researched and believes it to be one of the three largest Ginkgo trees in Illinois.

Ginkgo and Ginkgo Suppliment Health Warnings

In some cultures, Ginkgo is used in cooking or as a featured ingredient or dessert.

Several years ago, it was one of the most widely-popular dietary supplements on the market. Ginkgo biloba was sold to millions, promising great memory enhancement among other things. In fact, this is completely false. Though a few smaller studies reportedly show benefits in dementia and Alzheimer patients, most studies show no slowing or improvement with consumption. There have been no proven beneficial uses for Ginkgo in other touted areas either, such as lowering blood pressure .

There are also many dangers to ingestion and regular Ginkgo use in some people. Many people are highly allergic. Ginkgo has been studied and shown to be detrimental to some people’s health. Specifically, taking Ginkgo supplements can be harmful to people with blood circulation problems, pregnant women and people taking antidepressants.

Ginkgo can cause bleeding, gas, nausea, diarrhea, dizziness and heart palpitations.

In addition, the over consumption of the seed (meat) can cause poisoning and convulsions. Some people are allergic to just handling the fleshy fruit, much like poison ivy.

So as a general warning, never start a regiment of dietary supplements without investigating them first. Most of the advertised new wonder drugs are marketing scams claiming unproven scientific results. Read the labels, ask your doctor and research online before taking a risk.

Our 100+ year old Ginkgo Tree at 321 Division Street in the fall.

Our 100+ year old Ginkgo Tree at 321 Division Street in the fall.

When October Goes

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Final color show of the year.

It was a perfect fall weekend here at 321 Division Street. We were treated to chilly mornings and warm, sunny afternoons. Perfect fall weather. Surprisingly, there is still quite a bit of color here, as the wind continues its dance with the falling leaves.

While doing some fall clean up and exterior painting, I took the time to do something I haven’t done in a very long time…. listen to one of my favorite albums.

No, not show tunes. It’s a jazzy, bluesy, smoldering album, perfect for this time of year. In fact, it was one of the first compact discs I bought as a college student– back in January of 1987, when I bought my first stereo system with a disc player.

Yes, CDs were new technology back then and just becoming available in retail stores. There was no internet or digital downloads– cassettes were the still the thing. Finding a store that carried CDs was difficult because the technology was still so new.

I wanted my foray into this new territory to be special. I bought three CDs, which was all I could afford at the time. They were: the John Barry soundtrack to Somewhere In Time, the Stephen Sondheim musical, Sunday In the Park with George and…. Barry Manilow’s 2:00 AM Paradise Cafe.

I know, some of you might be thinking Barry Manilow? But yes, I was a huge fan, and this album (his fourteenth) was a big departure from his previous pop recordings.

The studio recording of this album is somewhat legendary. It was rehearsed for three days and then recorded live, all in one take and released, as recorded,  in 1984.

In addition to Manilow’s solo work, it features gorgeous duets with Manilow and crooner Mel Torme and with the amazing Sarah Vaughn. It plays like a bar set in a dark, smokey jazz club of the past.

The entire song set is really solid but the tune I can’t get enough of is When October Goes. Manilow wrote the music to go with an unfinished lyric by the late Johnny Mercer. It’s a classic.

When October Goes

by Barry Manilow and Johnny Mercer

And when October goes
The snow begins to fly
Above the smokey roofs
I watch the planes go by

The children running home
Beneath a twilight sky
Oh, for the fun of them
When I was one of them

And when October goes
The same old dream appears
And you are in my arms
To share the happy years

I turn my head away
To hide the helpless tears
Oh, how I hate
To see October go

And when October goes
The same old dream appears
And you are in my arms
To share the happy years

I turn my head away
To hide the helpless tears
Oh, how I hate
To see October go

I should be over it now I know
It doesn’t matter much
How old I grow
I hate to see October go

I guess it’s pretty obvious why I’m writing about it now. I hope you enjoy it half as much as I do.

This is one of the few recordings that I highly recommend. A must have for anyone into standards, jazz or blues. You won’t be disappointed.

Our oak trees have dropped nearly all their leaves.

Our oak trees have dropped nearly all their leaves.

Autumn At 321 Division Street

Autumn Leaves.

Autumn Leaves.

Crisp morning air, full of the scent of falling oak leaves…

Fall is finally here! My favorite season. Surprisingly, there is an abundance of color– in spite of the short summer we experienced this year. With an unseasonably cool August, many of our Maple trees dropped the majority of their leaves more than a month earlier than usual without changing color. Temperature, rainfall and a whole slew of other factors can affect the amount and timing of fall color and nature is putting on quite a show.

We’re pretty much at our color peak right now, here in Elgin. How long it will last, will again, depend on a number of factors– but might hang around a little longer than usual is we don’t experience any extreme weather changes.

To top off this autumn color display, we had a great viewing opportunity, October 8th, of a lunar eclipse. I’ve seen many over the years and this one was unique from my past viewing experiences; with the full eclipse occurring at 5:30 am, fading into the dawn.

Enjoy it while you can. The snow will be here before you know it!

Virginia Creeper turning crimson.

Virginia Creeper turning crimson.

Autumn color at 321 Division Street.

Autumn color at 321 Division Street.

Porch view.

Side Porch view.

Color by our 120+ yr. old Ginkgo tree.

Fall color surrounds our 120+ yr. old Ginkgo tree.

Blazing color of our Burning Bush after the rain.

Blazing color of our Burning Bush after the rain.

Fall at 321 Division Street.

Fall at 321 Division Street.

Lunar Eclipse, October 8th, 2014.

Lunar Eclipse, October 8th, 2014.

Lunar Eclipse Over Elgin, at dawn. October 8th, 2014.

Lunar Eclipse Over Elgin, at dawn. October 8th, 2014.

Brilliant colors of Autumn.

Brilliant colors of Autumn.

My forest angle of the 321 Division Street

My forest angle of the 321 Division Street

Autumn at 321 Division Street. 125 years old.

Autumn at 321 Division Street. 125 years old.